Just what is it about weddings? Why did millions of people set their alarms for three in the morning to watch Prince Harry and Meghan Markle say “I do” at Saint George’s Chapel May 19? Was it the beauty of the bride, the elegance of the dress, the royal pomp and circumstance, the adorable children, the flowers, Prince Harry’s adoring looks, or the history of Windsor Castle? Was it the presence of Hollywood elites and dignitaries from all over the world in amazing hats? Was it anticipating the drama, emotions and excitement of family and friends in their finest? Or, are we compelled to watch an epic, historic love story and celebration unfold?
Research suggests that no one is immune from weddings’ romantic charms. This may be due to our innate love of ceremonies and rituals. Weddings are a ritual that celebrates family, friends, food, festivities, future and fun. Connecting with others to witness something so sacred as two hearts openly committing to loving and cherishing one another forever, seem to transcend earthly concerns. We adore weddings because they bring us together in our tribes to witness great happiness and celebrate two people who have the hope of enduring love. This helps to ignite the flame of love and hope that lives within us all.
Many times, we never truly know the ins and outs of a relationship between two people. We may hear about drama in their relationship or the arguments, but we don’t generally get to witness two people profess their love for one another in a public setting. It’s a privilege to be in attendance watching the visual representation of love play itself out.
To explore the meaning of love and why we long for it in our human experience goes to the heart of being significant. In Viktor Frankl’s famous book, Man’s Search for Meaning, he proclaims, “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” According to Frankl, the purpose of life is to love and be loved.
Married committed love is not about having financial, social, sexual needs met. These needs and wants are certainly part of a relationship, but real love is unselfishly wanting the best for the other person, to be happy, fulfilled and self-actualized. It is knowing that the worst day is better because the person we love is with us and we are stronger together.
Add to all this the element of a “Cinderella” story. The wedding of Prince Harry and Megan Markle had a special meaning because a beautiful American actress married her prince, heir to the throne of British royalty. All of this makes us feel like if this fairy tale of marrying a prince and he marrying a princess, can happen to Meghan and Harry, anything is possible for all of us.
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