There is a phrase in American political life: “Politics stops at the water’s edge.” It suggests that once we cross our borders, whether as political leaders, diplomats, business leaders, tourists, or military personnel, we represent something larger than ourselves. We carry our flag in our words, our conduct, and our character.
Supporting our country at the water’s edge is not blind loyalty. It is disciplined unity. It is the quiet understanding that disagreements at home do not require disparaging remarks abroad.
The “Ugly American” describes travelers who are loud, dismissive of local customs, or openly critical of our country. Whether you agree or disagree with the current president, criticizing them abroad is not patriotic. The damage of such behavior is not merely personal embarrassment; it can deepen stereotypes, strain relationships, and diminish goodwill.
I certainly understand this as a former officer in the United States Air Force. From my first days of orientation in the nurse corps, I was taught that I represented the United States wherever I was. While overseas, I was instructed on local customs, languages, and sensitivities and to conduct myself as an ambassador in uniform. I learned that patriotism is not blind loyalty to perfection, but rather affirming my commitment to work within systems to improve my country without diminishing it or disrespecting it.
Currently cruising in the South Pacific, I was mortified when one of my fellow passengers on a land tour left his trash under a bench. I wanted to confront him, but he was in a crowd. Instead, I picked up his trash and disposed of it. I am still unsettled by this act of disregard and disrespect not only to our host country but also to the reputation of Americans.
By contrast, American figure skater Alysa Liu captured international attention with her artistry and athletic brilliance; she did more than deliver a flawless, joyful performance. She carried the hope and pride of America. Liu’s grace under pressure embodied the best of American ideals: resilience, opportunity, and the pursuit of excellence. As the anthem played, she stood, hand over heart, demonstrating that supporting our country abroad can be an act of quiet reverence.
In a world of instant commentary and social media outrage, it can be tempting to criticize our country while overseas. Yet wisdom calls for discernment. Honest debate belongs robustly within a democracy’s borders.
Supporting our country at the “water’s edge” means remembering that we are stewards of its reputation. It means choosing respect over ridicule, dignity over derision, and unity over division.
Nations are not strengthened by arrogance, nor by self-loathing. They are strengthened by citizens who carry themselves with integrity, who acknowledge their country’s imperfections while defending its principles, and who understand that pride, properly expressed, builds bridges rather than walls. When we travel, compete, negotiate, or serve beyond our shores, we become living ambassadors. The question is not whether we will represent our country but how we will do so.
And… in that choice lies the true measure of patriotism. joneen@narme.org