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The 14th annual Centus Samaritan Luncheon is May 5 and is being held at the Police Protective Association Event Center.
Former Colorado first lady Jeannie Ritter, Mental Health Ambassador of the Mental Health Center of Denver, and Dr. Carl Clark, president and CEO of the Mental Health Center of Denver, are honorees. Ritter is well known as a mental health advocate and an outspoken voice for mental health.
She is helping break down the negative image of people battling mental illness. Many people still use nasty and sarcastic words to describe those in treatment and perhaps because of that, many people needing help fail to seek it. The Centus Samaritan agency is 30 years old and these honorees are on the front lines of that battle.
This luncheon is the main fundraiser for the nonprofit that provided more than 6,000 hours of counseling, testing and evaluation services last year alone. About half of their clients have a very low-income profile, may have little or no health insurance and are eligible for reduced fees. Centus hopes to raise about $50,000 May 5. For more details, visit www.centus.org, call Kait Hilton at 303-639-5240, ext. 17 or email at email@example.com.
April 25 packed
Even sooner than that, there are four nonprofit events April 25. The Colorado Symphony Ball From Bach to Rock, Battle of the Bands, is back at the Fillmore Auditorium and for good reason: it attracts a whole new upscale audience that may not be as dedicated to classical music as longtime philanthropists. Many music enthusiasts respect the classics but when out partying would rather rock the night away than watch an orchestra playing Mozart or Beethoven.
When the CSO attaches these two demographics, the result is clever and downright fun. Included in the evening are live and silent auctions and the CSO is performing all evening long, backing Tracksuit Wedding and the DaVita Blues All Stars.
Debbie and Jim Shpall are chairs and they will be joined by friends who plan to put on their most colorful clothes, which is a photographer’s dream.
For more info, visit www.coloradosymphony.org or call 303-308-2477.
That same date the Denver Bar Association hosts its Barristers Benefit Ball, Fire and Ice, which is at the Marriott City Center. Numerous legal beagles are sponsors and include Holland & Hart, Berenboum Weinshienk, Davis Graham & Stubbs, the Judicial Arbiter Group, Inc., Sherman and Howard and many other firms. For live info, call Dana Collier Smith at 303-824-5318.
Meanwhile, Community Sailing of Colorado has its Spirit of Sailing Gala at the History Colorado Center. On their team are Brandon Kass, Phil Muller, Judi James, Beth Erickson, Anne David, Brenda Roy and Colleen Imerman. This 501(c)3 provides public access to sailing located at the Cherry Creek & Boulder Reservoirs.
Also April 25 is the Regis Jesuit High School LARK, in the spirit of the Kentucky Derby. You can come without shelling out big bucks on your hair stylist, as this is an awesome place to don your best spring hat, guys and gals alike. On a tight budget? Head to Michaels and create your own, perhaps theme-centered hat, then get a second wearing at the DCPA Hattitude Luncheon, May 7. Reach Regis at 303-269-8040 or visit www.regisjesuit.com/lark2015.
This edition of GloryUs Goings On Etiquette comes from a reader we’ve known for years and is an active philanthropist. It was forwarded to this person who then forwarded it to this desk. It’s been edited for newspaper style, as it reflects what many moviegoers are talking about privately. The source and other names mentioned in the original post have been deleted.
“Good parenting is so rare these days, it actually makes news when it happens. When one mom learned her daughters were extremely rude to another moviegoer who politely asked them to quiet down, she was furious and took to social media to settle things. Amazing. Here’s the story from a Facebook page: One adult saw the post and shared it from the Jefferson County Sheriff’s Facebook page, and it quickly went viral, amassing over 245,000 ‘likes.’
“This is a long shot, but I’m looking for a woman that was at a movie tonight seeing Cinderella at 7 p.m. I dropped my teenage daughter, another relative, and son off at the movie. My son later told me, much to my humiliation and embarrassment, that my girls were rude and obnoxious during the movie. The woman I’m looking for addressed them and asked them to be quiet and they were disrespectful. After the movie she approached my girls and told them that her husband had been laid off and this was the last movie she would be able to take her daughter to for a while and my girls ruined that for her. If you are this woman, please message me. I can assure you that these girls are being strongly dealt with and appropriately punished. This rude, disrespectful, and awful behavior is unacceptable and they owe you an apology. My husband and I are having them write your apology letter tonight and we would like to pay for your next movie and snacks out of their allowance. Please message me if this is you. I apologize profusely for their disrespect.”
According to ABC News, the woman who was offended by the kids’ behavior saw the Facebook post and wrote back. “I am the mom from the movie theatre. I had taken my daughter to see Cinderella. I was very upset and disappointed in the girls’ behavior and the note from their mom brought me to tears and shows there (are) still good people in the world.
“I have no hard feelings toward them and I am proud of their parents. The girls are not bad, they are children. Glad they are learning a lesson. I hope if my teenagers are out and they act up…I hope someone says something to them,” wrote our source.
Readers, feel welcome to chime in on this incident and its thread. Like these people, your name can be left out if it’s used for this column.
Bev Sloan File photo
Bev Sloan, former CEO of The Denver Hospice, will receive the Heart of Hospice award during The Denver Hospice’s Heart of Hospice Tribute event, April 22, at the Four Seasons Hotel Denver. The Heart of Hospice is a special honor awarded once every two years to someone whose contributions to The Denver Hospice are unsurpassed.
Among her accomplishments: securing a $500,000 federal appropriation in 2003 to start the Life Quality Institute and greatly expand end-of-life care education for medical professionals and the public and creating a rich partnership with Selian Lutheran Hospice in Tanzania. Selian has grown to being a force in Tanzania with 22 staff members and 350 well-trained volunteers; and her leadership with The Denver Hospice Board of Directors for the “Caring for the Future” campaign to build the Inpatient Care Center at Lowry.
Honorary co-chairs: Louann and Micky Miller, Karen and Peter Van Arsdale, Nancy and Skip Miller, Janet Mordecai. Dinner co-chairs are John Horan, Wayne Neilsen, and Mickey Ackerman. Steering Committee members are Evi Makovsky. Marti Awad, David Alexander, Mike Pasquarella, Janelle McCallum, Susan James, Keri Jaeger, Dana O’Connell, Alicia Prescott, Wylia Sims and Kristen Tucker.
For information, visit www.thedenverhospice.org.
Premack retires from Mizel Museum
Ellen Premack is retiring as the Executive Director of the Mizel Museum. During her 23 years with the Museum, Ellen’s leadership, vision and creativity brought it from a small display in the BMH-BJ Synagogue to a nationally recognized museum of Jewish art and culture, with multifaceted programs serving the community at large.
Ellen has been involved with the Mizel Museum since 1992, when she became a member of the Board of Governors under Rabbi Stanley Wagner. In 1994, she became an educator for the Bridges of Understanding exhibition. Ellen was promoted to Director of Education, a post she held until 2000, when she became executive director.
Caruso Family Charities gala
Caruso Family Charities has its Spring Gala April 11 at the Denver Marriott City Center. Unfamiliar with this nonprofit, we looked into it and learned that the organization assists families of a child, adolescent or young adult being treated in-state for a serious illness. They get referrals from physicians and social workers at The Children’s Hospital, and creditors such as mortgage holders, utilities and phone companies are paid directly. Average amount granted per family is $3,500.
Recently retired Columbine High School Principal Frank DeAngelis is among board members and the rest of their board roster is equally impressive. Jerry Caruso is executive director. Check the Charity Calendar for contact info.
Friendship Bridge gala
Friendship Bridge, a local nonprofit providing microcredit and education to more than 22,000 women in Guatemala, is celebrating its 25th anniversary at its annual gala. The gala is April 23 at Mile High Station.
The evening’s theme is “Honoring our Past, Building our Future.” The event will honor Friendship Bridge founders Ted and Connie Ning and past board presidents Dana Falletti, Helen Gair, Francy Milner, Mimi Schlumberger, Sandy Younghans, Elizabeth Steel and Dan Thomas.
Joining the event will be Sara Par from Guatemala, a Friendship Bridge loan officer and former Friendship Bridge client.
The gala will feature an authentic Guatemalan marketplace, live music, distinctive live and silent auctions, Latin-themed cuisine and a video commemorating Friendship Bridge’s past.
Friendship Bridge’s mission is to empower impoverished Guatemalan women to create a better future for themselves, their children and their communities through microfinance and education. Friendship Bridge serves more than 22,000 women clients in Guatemala and has a loan portfolio of $6.4 million. In addition to microcredit, it offers non-formal basic education and advanced business and technical skills training. In 2015, Friendship Bridge is piloting new health, agriculture, and artisan market access programs.
More info, visit www.friendshipbridge.org/25th-anniversary-gala.
Excelsior Youth Center’s Triumphant Faces Gala cleared $250,000.
The InterFaith Community Services’ Nibbles & Sips Boots and Bling netted $130,000.
President & CEO The new Denver Center for the Performing Arts president & CEO is Scott Shiller, following on the heels of Dan Ritchie.
Scott hails from Miami, Florida where he was executive veep at the Adrienne Arsht Center for the Performing Arts since 2007. In his first year, he led the center to a $3.3 million turnaround and a 76 percent increase in attendance, Ritchie reported.
Mr. Ritchie remains chairman of the board for the DCPA and is focusing on reauthorizing the SCFD in 2016. Never a dull moment with our beloved Dan!
Cherry Creek High School Parent Senate used to informally congregate at our Belleview Square King Soopers as many of us landed up there when our kids were among the more than 3,000 students on the nearby campus.
Then we all became mothers or fathers of the bride and some classmates were each other’s bridesmaids. How we all navigated those treacherous landscapes we’re not certain, but we had a lot of energy, some playing wedding consultant to each other.
It’s good etiquette to let the intended couple know in advance of your budget for the entire wedding experience if you are footing the bill. If you’re buying the bridesmaids’ gowns, include that along with the budget for the wedding gown. Those bridesmaids’ gowns are no longer tacky apparel no one would ever wear again, but refined, demure and attractive. Black has really caught on as well.
A big change has happened in the past decade or two, with couples waiting longer to marry and by then have the money to pay for their own nuptials. They are including traditional ceremonies in their own pledges of love for each other. This makes the ceremony so inclusive and clever.
But perhaps, with the couple paying for it all or part, it means that parents need to let the couple be the directors and parents take a sideline position.
Destination weddings in Vail and Beaver Creek are popular sites for warm weather weddings and overnight stays for close family and friends are often included. If the wedding is not in the local area of either bride or groom, save your shekels. Hawaii, Las Vegas and points around the globe are also popular.
But before they settle on out of town locations, they should be aware of escalating costs for photographers, wedding cake and other budget items. Consider whether the list of invited guests includes those who will not be able to make the trip and how they will feel being left out of the nuptials. Think about aging grandparents who remember you as a child, a friend who’s about to give birth and unable to travel and other sensitive issues. A local reception after your honeymoon can help, but feelings may be hurt at missing the main event. Popular now in that vein is to have a wedding ceremony-size reception in the couple’s hometown after they return from their honeymoon. Show a video of the real nuptials at the reception for everyone to enjoy.
Sharing costs in such cases are really a great idea for the groom and their friends and families as well.
Now, readers, we have a question. How do you feel about mentioning on the wedding invitation, “No children under the age of 5. We will arrange for babysitters for those travelling long distances to share our joy,” or similar wording?
It is an efficient way of preventing a crying baby from interrupting your ceremony.
Shelly and Jan Steinhauser, Joel Boymel (standing), Karen and Daniel Steinhauser (seated), photographed in 2008 at the Anti-Defamation Award dinner reception.
The Nathan Yip Foundation has its Chinese New Year Gala, Feb. 21, honoring Jan and Sheldon Steinhauser as honorary chairs. It also ushers in the Year of the Sheep at the Denver Marriott Tech Center. The Yip Foundation was founded by Jimmy and Linda Yip. Mr. Yip said that the Steinhausers embody “so many of the characteristics that we hope the children we support will develop. From Shelly’s long record of achievement in the fields of human rights and education to Jan’s work in the arts and education, they are dear friends who we are so honored to celebrate this year.”
This is not the first time Mr. Steinhauser has been honored, as he is well known in the community. The human rights activist has an Honorary Doctorate in Public Service from Regis University and honored with the Martin Luther King, Jr. Humanitarian Award; Civil Rights Achievement Awards from the Colorado Civil Rights Commission and the Anti-Defamation League. He’s also been honored at the Bernie Valdez annual event as well as what is now the Latin American Research and Service Agency, formerly known as LARASA; and even more accolades by the greater Denver educational and cultural entities.
Jan and Shelly have five children and to date, nine grandchildren. Jan is an artist, working with mixed media and has donated art to the Nathan Yip Chinese New Year every year since 2002.
Daughter Karen Steinhauser is an attorney, focusing on family law in several areas, including defense for juveniles and adults.
The Yip Foundation was created to keep alive the memory of their only son, Nathan, lost in a car accident. Jan and Shelly Steinhauser have in common with the Yip Foundation the worldwide support of youth, be it Colorado, Africa, rural Mexico or China.
The gala agenda includes live and silent auctions, the Shaolin Hung Mei Lion Dancers and the foundation’s theme song, “Open Your Eyes.”
For information, visit www.nathanyipfoundation.org or call 303-817-8400.
The year was an amazing year for The Adoption Exchange. They served 1,340 kids, supported 5,000 families, and connected 374 children with families.
The Adoption Exchange’s volunteers have provided valuable services. Last year volunteers provided an incredible 2,700 hours of service, helping with outreach, recruitment events and activities, in the office and at fundraisers.
We love sharing “thank yous” nonprofits mention verbally or in written content. Major donors get thanked at galas, sometimes being asked to be honorary chairmen, giving so much that rooms, buildings and maybe bricks outside the agency’s offices bear their names. But many other volunteers are thanked informally for their daytime and evening hours to help wherever they are needed. Both types of support are necessary and are worthy of praise for jobs well done in the proverbial trenches and also underwriting the mission’s goals.
The Colfax Marathon is already scheduled for May 16 and 17. Visit www.runcolfax.org for more details.
For the Love of Family Gala, March 7
Clever fundraising names make them memorable so in this perspective note that the Family Homestead’s For the Love of Family Gala, March 7, is titled The Grand Gatsby. Period attire will make this a selfies grab, but cocktail attire is another option. Either way, practice your Charleston routine. For information, contact Judy Mugler at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The gracious sports spectator knows how to cheer for the home team while being respectful of the “visitors.” First-hand experience came about when one subscriber was in junior high school and on the pep squad. Every Friday during football season, she wore her West Junior High School colors. Then she started dating the captain of another junior high school football team and got used to wearing his football team letter jacket. When the two teams played each other, she had a problem. She decided to forego the jacket for that annual game, thereby keeping her school friends and hopefully, her steady, happy.
“We didn’t boo the other team and we didn’t bully and intimidate anyone,” she confided.
Fast forward to being literally a soccer and football mom.
Thus, spectator etiquette came into focus and so we advise you to keep your outbursts positive and watch even your body language, as offspring often mirror parents’ behavior. Sniping at a referee when disagreeing with him or her is inappropriate. You aren’t on the field and perhaps just couldn’t see what the coach saw. Even at a pro football or other sport, refrain from shouting four letter words and you should watch it when watching a game at a friend’s house, even if all of you are adults. Take a few deep breaths and remember it’s just a game. You don’t have to “be a mile high” to let loose with unsportsmanlike vocabulary or body language.
At a recent Avalanche game at the Pepsi Center with a relative who flew into Denver just for the game and expected to cheer his hometown team, we decided to just cheer good plays made by either team.
We love our Cherry Creek School District sports players and try to be ever mindful of our every gesture as positive role models. But we’ve seen parents of school team players leave school games yelling at their offspring for doing something on the court that didn’t work well. But we all know by now that as teens grow physically, their brain’s emotional development lags. So how do you think the student already feels without your criticism dumped on him or her too?
Praise the student’s efforts, not always the outcome. Give a hug to the student who worked up a sweat as part of a team that gave its all and perhaps sometimes, ignore the digital scorecard, and say “You tried really hard and I’m proud of you!”
Julie-Aigner ClarkFile photo by Glory Weisberg
The year 2014 was the saddest we can recall as obituaries kept appearing in The Villager. As noted last week, Walt Imhoff is greatly missed. We also lost Edna Chang Grant, Craig Johnson, Mikke Wolf, Ginger Underwood, Bertha Haugen, Lou Messina, Larry Fanning and my own sister, Margaret.
The Sue Miller Day of Caring filled the DTC Marriott main ballroom with breast cancer survivors, including one male. Each modeled fashionable outfits as their cancer stories were told, emitting supportive clapping. Julie Aigner-Clark was keynote speaker.
Well known local radio personality Murphy Huston was among male breast cancer patients as revealed at the Cancer League Gala last May. Surgery forced him to give up his emceeing duties, and for some guests, quite a shock. Elaine and Sandy Wolf were gala sponsors.
The Denver Health Foundation had its annual NightShine Gala last spring, focusing on the increasing need for adolescent mental health services. Foundation CEO Paula Herzmark said, “That’s where the funds from the gala are going because the number of teen suicides and attempted suicides, depression and even PTSD are on the rise.”
Part of the blame for that can be cyberbullying, as noted at the Smart-Girl Luncheon. Intimidation and ongoing nastiness can have devastating results that can continue on even after a student changes schools, as social media has no date or time constraints.
Archie Manning was a double sell-out for the Jewish Family Service Executive Luncheon.
Originally slated for the Grand Hyatt, downtown, reservations that came in even before invitations went out forced the agency to seek a larger ballroom.
Moved to the Seawell Ballroom in the Denver Center for the Performing Arts complex, reservations soon sold out for that venue, with more than 800 attendees, 600 of them corporate supporters!
The May 21 Mizel Dinner at Wings Over the Rockies was immediately preceded by tornado warnings and two-inches of hail in parts of Denver. Many guests said they were hustled into tornado shelters at the Cherry Creek Shopping Center, but about 2,000 guests made it to the dinner anyway.
Indeed, hail was unprecedented in its affect on the southeast Denver area last year, especially in Centennial in October, with some damaged homes and autos still awaiting final repairs as 2015 began, due to a massive numbers of those areas in its path.
When the audience at a nonprofit benefit is paying three-digits or more per person do they have the right to drown out the emcee, auctioneer and anyone else trying to put on the program? That was the focus on one of the May 22 Etiquette column and it was a hot button for readers as many told us they just didn’t know how to curtail this menace, scared to lose the often loyal donors at one table but unfair to everyone else, too. Perhaps, a note in the event invitation stating something like “please be respectful of other guests at this event who want to focus on the program, unhindered by overly enthusiastic others” would help but if you can come up with a better idea our readers want to hear from you, literally!
Etiquette, this just in
With the “charity circuit” quiet as private holiday parties kept us on the roads throughout the metro area and into ski resorts, I listened to those who, like more than 40 percent of the American public, were divorced. They had common complaints and among them were the thoughtless snippets from those who considered themselves friends of both men and women, thinking the other person would want to be told they were better off now.
Without divulging the names, here’s the gist of what they said.
“I can think of an entire etiquette column on dealing with your ex, his new wife/ her new husband and the charity scene.” With so many of the “regulars” divorcing it’s a very real issue.
“The thing I hate the most is the way people feel the need to ‘announce’ that you’re so much better off without him/her. Oh and then there is the number of times the new beau/date gets told (John or Jane) is so much better with you than the ex.
“The dating divorced person hates being compared to the new person, he/she just wants to stand on his/her own.”
Think how that feels to the new person.
There are so many things that people can do to be a little more respectful of what is usually an already uncomfortable situation.
“People need to understand that not all divorced people want you to hate their ex and it makes it hard to move on with forgiveness with anger around you. Anyway, this is what I have found the most daunting over this holiday season.”
As many friends have agreed, you’re probably facing less stress if one of the divorced parties moves away and California seems to be popular unless they like to ski.
It can take years for a divorced person to get over the anguish and financial fiasco that doesn’t make anyone happier. So before commenting at all on a divorced person’s ex, perhaps just don’t mention it at all, although it is, at least at first, the imagined 800 pound gorilla in the room, restaurant, etc. and as the song from Frozen says, “let it go.”
Nathan Kabat and his date, Amelie KeyserFile photos by Glory Weisberg
Love was in the air, Valentine’s Day when the University of Colorado Hospital Foundation had its Hearts of All Ages at Wings Over the Rockies.
When Nathan Kabat learned he was coming to the benefit, he asked his mom if he could bring a date. Never mind that Nathan was about to turn 6. When mom said yes, he asked Amelia Keyser if she would go to the benefit. She said yes!
That event at Wings Over the Rockies was geared toward kids, as it always is now and the menu included hot dogs, tater tots and mini-burgers, as well as carved turkey and veggies for grownups. The silent auction was awash in baskets filled with toys and other items for parents to bid on. The usual pink attire was everywhere and we wouldn’t miss this benefit.
Portable defibrillators are becoming commonplace in more public buildings, including schools and there to promote the effort was the South Metro Firefighters Safety Foundation benefit. Also involved were the Children’s Hospital Heart Institute and the Brianna Badger Foundation. As the price per unit comes down expect to find them in more stores and thus, homes.
We tearfully bid a final good-bye to Walt Imhoff in February. The Imhoffs lived a few blocks from us and just passing near there now evokes some warm/sad memories of Georgia and Walt.
Those of us nearly force-fed liver as kids can identify with a tune sung by the Colorado Children’s Chorale at a March benefit. The song was hilarious and what a hit! You’re not going to hear this kind of music anywhere else. The choir members don’t just stand on risers as they belt out tunes, they also have an energetic routine and the event was just plain fun.
Also child centered was the Cherry Creek Schools Foundation Luncheon in March, which told the story of Caine Monroy who built a cardboard arcade in his dad’s auto parts store one summer, charging $1 per person, hoping to raise $25,000 for his college education. The effort got off to a rough start. Then what followed was an amazing success story that went around the world as www.cainesarcade.com and eventually raised $240,000. By the time the luncheon was held, the site had gotten 8 million views and reached 41 countries. Among nonprofits now sharing the loot is the Make-A-Wish Foundation.
The Junior League Journey had its own childhood focus. Tears and laughter rippled through the Hyatt DTC ballroom when Denver Bronco greats Reggie Rivers and Shannon Sharpe addressed the Junior League Journey benefit.
Tears streamed down Sharpe’s cheeks when he told about his own journey starting with growing up in his grandparents’ home. The only running water in the house came from the leak in the roof that dripped down on his granny’s face whenever it rained at night.
Dr. Reggie Washington and Denver Mayor Michael HancockFile photos by Glory Weisberg
Denver Mayor Michael Hancock made a statement that stays with us and others as well, I bet, as he said that one American community knows how many prison cells to build based on the number of children not reading by the third grade. Mari Marsico, daughter-in-law of Tammy and Tom Marsico, and Allie Ingalls, a second generation Junior Leaguer, chaired the dinner.
A premature baby boy was born to Gabe and Mandy Geoff too early, needing to stay in the hospital for more than two months as it gained weight. When Mandy couldn’t supply enough pumped breast milk and the infant couldn’t tolerate any type of formula, be it dairy, soy or other source, the parents said, “We turned to the Mother’s Milk Bank. We referred to it as liquid gold,” they said. That gold was needed for seven months.
This heart-rending tale underscored the need for public support for the Rocky Mountain Hospital for Children Foundation, which had its gala last March. Watching a tiny infant struggle to live is terrifying. Every breath uses precious calories that for the Geoff baby could only come from that one source.
What shows up behind a focused face is frustrating when photos are downloaded after an event I’ve attended. If it’s not the chandelier that looms like a tiara on steroids, it’s gigantic flowers that seem to have instantly sprouted behind a person’s ear. My journalism education never included photography so walk a mile in my three inch heels during a silent auction where the bar is more popular than the items up for bid and see how hard taking these photos can be. Bidding at the Denver Center’s Saturday Night Alive is tense, fun and perhaps, loaded with bargains at the last minute as a giant screen in the Seawell Ballroom reveals who’s bidding against you. This is combat in a tuxedo! Anonymity is impossible there and friendships fall as bids rise. Forget the filet on your plate as the seconds tick toward the finale. People watching there is an unfolding drama and we recommend going if you can get a ticket as this venue sells out fast. Leo and Susan Kiely chaired last year’s.
Archie Manning fathered three boys. Peyton and Eli are NFL football stars and Archie was a sell-out draw for the April 30 Jewish Family Service Executive Luncheon. Papa Manning titled his remarks, “The Book of Manning.”
Three hunks in tuxedoes commanded attention at the Central City Opera Theatre of Dreams Gala. Forte, as they known, were a smash hit on America’s Got Talent but they didn’t win the competition. They gave a stellar performance on stage and patiently posed for fan photos before hitting the stage spotlight. We wished they’d sing till midnight.
Barbara Ferguson, center with FORTE members Josh Page, Sean Panikkar and Fernando Varela
Colorado Gives Day netted $118,826.50 in donations from 544 different individuals this year for The Gathering Place “and this number will rise after we add the money from the Colorado Gives Day incentive fund,” they said.
The Gathering Place is halfway through its Feasts & Festivities lineup for the year and so far have had some good ones! The Top Ladies of Distinction kicked off the fun on Dec. 5, 2014, with a celebration of holidays from around the world. Since then, Kaiser Permanente, Plum Consignment, the National Council of Jewish Women, and various TGP staff departments have put on their own Feast & Festivity events. These programs are among the many special events during the holidays that help our community come together to celebrate,” they said.
Dressed In Black
We have a new combo for the charity circuit. Over the holidays, an off the job party had the Peter Yellen group named Dressed in Black, which is home based in Bailey. There are six members of this musical group and that includes a versatile singer. The Cherry Hills Country Club dance floor was full all evening with generations-spanning couples, from waltz to rock, not too loud, just lovely! Find them at www.dressedinblack.net.
Colorado Gives Day recap
A Colorado Gives Day recap from the Alzheimer’s Association show the organization reaped $127,219 “that will make a positive impact on the lives of the more than 63,000 Coloradans living with Alzheimer’s disease and their family caregivers.” That’s quite a windfall!
Also, this time from the Denver Young Artist Orchestra, their Colorado Gives Day goal was to raise $35,000 and that “surpassed” their goal with $35,635.
31st annual Beautillion
The Jack and Jill of America, Inc., Denver Chapter celebrated its 31st annual Beautillion, Dec. 21, at the Sheraton Downtown Denver Hotel, by recognizing 25 African American male high school seniors from various schools in the Denver metro area. The Beaus were honored for their service to their communities, as well as their dedication to their education.
This year’s theme, A Legacy of Achievement: Keeping the Dream Alive, was evocative of the accomplishments of the African American community, but also served as a call to action to continue to work to ensure the success of its youth.
The following are the 2014 Beaus: Alfred Agbim, Reginald Ausler, Jr.; Pryce Batey; Kameron Brandon; Isaiah Brown; Jaron Brown; Julian Carey; Morgan Flowers; Derek Hawkins; Rico Henderson, II; Jeremiah Hodges; Isaiah Jones; Noah Jones; Nasir Little; Steven McAlester; Okiefe Ogbe; Elijah Sanford; Rayvon Solomon; Darnell Steel-Tyler; Leonard Steel-Tyler; Noah Tate; Justice Taylor; Darian Turner; Timothy Whitlow and Arsean Wilbon.
As the economy improves so do the coffers of locally based nonprofits. But decreasing is the number of holiday cards arriving in the mail. We are indeed going to a paperless society, undoubtedly due at least in part to the cost of a first class stamp, now at 49 cents and that price will probably keep increasing. Another factor: we’re tiring of reading all those holiday letters, touting the wonderful year a family’s had. Also the time crunch and the reminder that cards became a popular way of reaching those with whom we don’t communicate regularly. That’s going by the wayside, thanks to Facebook, LinkedIn and other social media.
So at this mailbox, one card was so outstanding that I got permission to print parts of it. Written by Barry Hirschfeld, it’s a keeper.
“Now that the cacophony of those non-stop political ads is behind us, we have a moment to clear our mind, to relax and plan for the year ahead. We would be shortsighted if we didn’t acknowledge those in our lives who have protected us and those who, individually and collectively, had laid the foundation of liberty that that allows us to flourish.
“Let’s glorify the good life we enjoy and show appreciation by performing multiple acts of kindness–some planned, some spontaneous–during the New Year.
“We can all be difference makers by touching those less fortunate and by spreading around the good fortune with which we’re been blessed. Let’s innovate during 2015 and make sure we’re worthy of the privileged space we occupy on this wonderful planet Earth.”
It’s signed by the extensive Hirschfeld family.
Barry’s words are a great way to begin our Year in Review series on enticing and positive things that happened in 2014 and as we are writing, that is underscored by a Dow Jones leap to 18,000 points, defying the 24/7 negative news filling our airwaves.
At this desk, news outlets have followed the old saying, if it bleeds it leads. But instead let’s read more about the positive things that enabled us to improve our lives. Leading auto dealer websites offer to “let us build one (vehicle) for you.”
But we do have to declare that the most requested topic for this Etiquette space is the lack of RSVPs sent to nonprofits. By golly, about a week ago The Wall Street Journal hopped onto this topic as well.
Our 2013 Villagers of the Year were Cherry Hills Villagers Bonnie and David Mandarich. David formed the Richmond America Homes Foundation and as the firm’s COO, his perspective has enabled numerous nonprofits to achieve the greatness he possesses. There along-side him, Bonnie is in the trenches, quietly making a difference.
In February we suddenly lost Craig Johnson, Walt Imhoff and Mikki Wolf.
The Museum of Nature and Science officially opened the Mayan Exhibit and the south side addition, a $30 million space, is just flat out wonderful! Credit George Sparks for his museum leadership and those who approved bonds to build it.
Cancer League loyals and royals Denise Foat, Janet Hanna, Dody Clark and Nancy DeLauro
When Cancer League of Colorado had its annual Holiday Meeting and Luncheon at the Preserve home of Tom and Denise Nalen, the house was wall to wall with members and there was enough food to satisfy every Santa and Mrs. Claus in Colorado.
A roaring fireplace greeted members and newbies who shopped in every corner of the first floor not occupied by caterers and friends. Credit goes to Lori Marks-Connors for chairing the luncheon and coordinating the popular party.
But before we ever got inside the house we were greeted by Jay’s Valet staffers. In the Nalen driveway was the 2015 Dodge Ram 1500 in CLC’s royal blue logo color. The $51,000 extended cab truck is the raffle auto, a total donation again from Dealin’ Doug Moreland’s family of dealerships.
Six months before the May 9, 2015, Cancer League Gala, there are $285,000 in commitments for the all-volunteer nonprofit gala, also on target to raise close to $1 million for instate early stage cancer research grants at the Anschutz Cancer Pavilion. Funds will also go to support selected cancer patient services in the state.
Contributing restaurants and caterers donating all the food at the festive luncheon included Patxi’s Pizza, Brio, Jimmy John’s, Epicurean, Lifestyles Catering, Cool River and Bistro Boys Catering.
Among the pop up shops selling holiday items and clothing were Origami Owl, Two Chic Boulevard, Donni Charm, Rare Finds, Sugarlicious, Makk Seragraphs & Giclees, Republic National Distributing, Adams & Jane Home Collection and others.
Mark your 2015 calendars for the June 29 Golf Tournament, Aug. 16 Race for Research and Sept. 18 and 19 the Over the Edge rappelling benefit.
This 2015 Dodge Ram 1500 crew cab, valued at $51,000, is the Cancer League 2015 raffle auto.
Day of Caring
The Day of Caring will be launching its first yearlong program on Jan. 1, 2015. Survivor Assistance will provide needed financial assistance to post-treatment survivors living in the seven-county Denver metro area. This program will be open to low-income survivors to apply for basic needs and alternative medicines.
“Launching the Survivor Assistance Program, is a huge step for the Day of Caring in becoming a larger organization. This will help us to extend our impact within Colorado,” said founder, Sue Miller. “We look forward to getting to know the applicants and their families, while helping them find solid ground financially after going through their diagnosis.”
Survivor Assistance is the first of its kind for breast cancer survivors in Colorado and does not duplicate other in-treatment programs. For questions or to make a donation in support of this program, contact Kate Van Daele at email@example.com or 720-633-7860.
Real Hope nets $467K
Jewish Family Service of Colorado Real Hope fundraiser raised a record net of $467,000 when Sheila Bugdanowitz and Sheryl Goodman were honored. Real Hope supports all Jewish Family Service services, including mental health counseling, senior and adult in-home care, disability and employment services, and family safety net services.
More than 550 people attended the 19th annual JFS event at Sports Authority Field at Mile High. In lieu of a movie (as in past “Reel Hope” events), guests were treated to a live performance by state champion a cappella group, MIX, from the University of Colorado at Denver.
Barry Curtiss-Lusher, Debra Herz, Arlene Hirschfeld, Don Kortz, Dean Prina, M.D., Carol Sobel and Irit Waldbaum were Real Hope co-chairs.
Tisdale’s new job
Doug Tisdale has a new job and is now executive vice president for Economic Development at the South Metro Denver Chamber.
As Joan Rivers used to say, “Can we talk” and this time it’s about etiquette in the shopping centers.
While I’m not aware of the kind of pushing and grabbing depicted on TV at Filene’s Basement of days of old, bargains at many retail outlets encourage battle-type behavior for the “loss leaders” offered by stores. They are called loss leaders as a few items are advertised in print and other media, offered at below actual cost of producing the items. Some are off-brand and only a few available so customers line up outside stores in bitter cold weather to be first in line for them. But the public is now in the store or at the website and go on to buy items more reasonably priced and in greater quantity.
Manners still “make the man (and woman)” and here are some guidelines. Act like a reasonable adult, foregoing the perhaps tempting grabbing and consider the Golden Rule and behave as such, no matter what the item, place or need. And considering the need, is it really worth shedding your manners for? Remember there’s no such thing as privacy in public and wouldn’t you be mortified if your image ends up on Facebook or the office site for all to see?
Next year make a list of what you are really going to shop for and stick with it, turning blinders to items you hadn’t put on your Santa list. Before Thanksgiving and so-called Black Friday, put together a budget of what you can afford for each person you will shop for, doing a virtual or actual pie chart of how much to spend on each person. If you come up with an “Egad! amount, start shaving the list and/or what’s on the list.
Shop local: small shopkeepers depend on holiday (and year-round) shoppers to keep their doors open the rest of the year. Before buying an item ask about the store’s return policy. Is merchandise returnable at all, is just a store credit accepted and how long is it returnable?
Personally, we love The Streets at SouthGlenn for the variety of types of shops, merchandise prices and ambience and that’s worth a lot. Pausing to watch ice skaters on the rink is just so relaxing and fun and perhaps you should rent ice skates and join them! If you already have purchases on your arms, go lock them in your vehicle.
Now about that vehicle. Never put a purchase in plain view in your car, but put it in the hatch or trunk and lock the car! Don’t leave items in plain view that you aren’t ready to lose no matter the retail neighborhood. Tempting fate is unwise. And remember, lots of autos get stolen when thieves shop for their next car in parking lots.
If you’re heading to Trice and plan to buy jewelry or watches, etc., ask the clerk if you can leave the item(s) in their vault and go back and pick them up when through shopping.
If you want to avoid circling the parking lot aisles, go early and to avoid losing your car by carelessly parking and not noticing what aisle and the number of spaces from the store entrance, write it down on your mobile device or on a sticky note, perhaps snapping a photo of the view. When entering a store or mall, look at the name of the entrance if it’s marked, and what you will see as you come back out.
The food court: avoid it. Never leave shopping bags or purse unattended for even a split second, as thieves are also shopping for your stuff. They too have a shopping list and your belongings are perhaps just what they dreamed of. It’s grab and go.
Be patient, considerate and keep a smile on your face and relaxed in your attitude, no matter the time of year or place.
Pamela Adams, Heather McCallin of Colorado Ballet and Donna RoddenPhotos by Glory Wesiberg
Denise Nalen and Rosemary Jonassen
Denver Ballet Guild got a lot of jingle in their balance sheet this year and a lot of new members came with it. That was evident at the guild’s Holiday Luncheon at Cherry Hills Country Club.
The meeting followed lunch so those on the go got to mingle and munch and move on.
We met Rosemary Jonassen, who is chairing the 2015 Showcase of Dance, which reaches 600 inner city school kids every year and for many of them this is their first ever live performance experience.
If your sophomore high school student wants a Debutante or Young Man of Distinction experience, visit www.denverballetguild.org or join this forever friendly guild and get involved with their Les Cygnettes or Les Demoisells programs.
Cocktails for a Cause schedule
Cocktails for a Cause has its 2015 nonprofit parties schedule out and here’s what’s coming up: Feb. 17 the women-only party at the Cable Center is for the Max Fund; June 17 it’s for the Tennyson Center for Children and on Oct. 21 it’s for Gateway Battered Women’s Services.
Visit www.Cocktailsforacauseco.org for details.
Who do you donate to?
It’s that time of year again, when just about every one of the 14,000 or so nonprofits in the state is sending us end-of-the-year donation mail, email and just about every other method of nagging us there is. But before clicking on, check writing and responding by phone (and please do not donate to charities using phone solicitation calls), here’s what you should meditate on.
From The Wall Street Journal’s Nov. 13, 2013, article by Lisa Ward, “What to Ask About a Charity…” which has bold faced “seven things to consider.”
First off, what do they hope to accomplish? What’s their mission? And here we say, go to their website and get the answer if the website has that. If they don’t, I’d put up a red flag on it. Next, are their goals clear and measurable? The first item is usually there, but here it gets sticky: how do they measure their goal, like are they making progress on it and what’s their track record on that? Tear jerking samples aside, ask for the proof and go to their source, if possible.
Next: Who are the charity’s leaders: get the board members’ names and check these folks out and maybe they don’t even know their names are on the stationery or website, or are they still vertical (alive)? Also, the names of the key staffers should be listed. I’d also check on similar nonprofits and bluntly ask what they think of this competitive nonprofit. How are they different? The largest nonprofit offering or providing a service may not always be the best run or spend your donation on what you want it to spend it on. How much do they spend on soliciting efforts? Personally, if they call the house and the caller ID comes up with the name of a nonprofit I’m not familiar with, I first ask if the caller is a professional fundraiser. If so, I deposit the phone in its base and get back to what I was doing before they called, like writing this article.
Also, before you recycle a nonprofit’s quarterly newsletter, read through the names of their major donors and maybe even call a few of them if you can and ask why they give.
What happens if your donation goes to a nonprofit that files for bankruptcy?
And, of course, consider your donation budget and don’t get swayed by one very good talker or solicitation letter, and land up donating on impulse.
Much of the WSJ’s article gets its heads up info from Charity Navigator, which is just about the best source we’ve seen. That article also lists four other sites under the headline, “Digging deeper.” The best one seems to be the Coalition of Evidence Based Policy, www.coalition4evidence.org.
One way to test the waters of a local charity is to volunteer there. Get hands on exposure, be observant, ask questions and be able to give the proverbial elevator speech before spending your own dollars on them.
Clothes To Kids of Denver raised more than $23,000 on Colorado Gives Day. If your favorite nonprofit raised more than expected, let me know.
Party people behaving well or not so well. I’ve attended more private parties in recent years than I’d ever have imaged in a lifetime, growing up in Texas, a wheezy, frizzy haired Jewish kid, so I’ve learned and observed a lot with cocktail conversers, knowing whatever they say is off the record.
So here’s some insight. What to wear: if it has a theme such as winter holiday, sports, summer by the pool or young child centered, etc. show up ready to reflect the style suggested in the Evite or mailed invitation. Don’t be a party pooper and wear the same, boring little black dress and the pearls your mother gave you. Go shopping, even if your budget means Target, TJ Maxx or Walmart.
Just a few accessories can do the trick.
Guys, don’t show up in jeans for a dressy party. My opinion is American men wear way too many jeans and they’re not any cheaper than nicely pressed khakis, black or other solid colors made by Ralph Lauren, Men’s Wearhouse, Dockers or store brands. Wear a shirt with a collar, accessorize with a nice navy jacket and leather boots or shoes. No sneakers!
Food: Hostesses and hosts may have a theme-centered menu. Check for hints on the invitation. If you’re not happy with barbecue, red meat or sushi, eat a healthy snack before arriving and try to put a few pieces of whatever it is on a plate and eat it slowly unless you’re allergic to it. One bite of a peanut-laced sauce and my hubby is groaning, “Benedryl.” If you have food allergies alert the hosts when you RSVP and yes, do RSVP. If there’s one repeated request from my readers it’s to keep on complaining about the lack of responses to invitations, or some replying after the number of expected guests has to be turned into the hotel or caterer or after you’ve bought the amount of food you’d planned to need.
Stash the cologne and perfume but if you must, use just one dab. Don’t douse yourself in the stuff because for some reason, perfume allergies seem to be exploding.
Have fun, arrive ready to party and do bring some kind of host gift even if it’s just a candle, mid-range-or-less bottle of wine or small bouquet of flowers.
Tip the valet staff before driving away. They’re out there in the elements for hours in this entry-level task.
Send a thank you note through whatever media you want to, but do send a few words if you want to be invited back. And here I note, if it’s your turn to host your friends, dig up a convenient date and be gracious.
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